Jeremy Gordon, LMFT

Marriage & Family Therapist (12649)

I think a person (or a couple) starting therapy wants to feel understood, so that is where we begin. I encourage you to find a therapist capable of seeing clearly how things are with you. As a therapist, I want to keep that at the center of our work together: that you feel well understood. I want you to experience genuine care, compassion and an absence of judgment or shame.

From there, we take up what brought you to therapy. We look at your thoughts and feelings, personal history, your learned coping styles (useful and otherwise); your sense of what you want to strengthen in yourself, and the reality of what you are dealing with in the world around you.

Over time, it has gotten harder for me to single out which theoretical camp I belong in, or how to describe my style or technique.  I do gravitate to the existential issues which we all face, so perhaps that is my home base. I find continuing value in CBT, DBT and evidence-based treatment models. With couples, I borrow heavily from Sue Johnson (EFT) and John & Julie Gottman, all the way back to the ground-breaking work of Masters & Johnson in the field of human sexuality. I appreciate and draw a great deal from narrative therapy and I especially value the principles of Zen mindfulness. 

I have been at BTI since its inception in the early 1970’s. I deeply value the ongoing conversation with my colleagues of the same and different disciplines. I like that we can work as treatment teams when it is called for to give the best care.

In the end, I love peoples’ life stories. I find them fascinating and compelling. I love being part of the very specific process in which people are trying to be as honest with themselves as they can, and are reaching for the sweet spot in being human.

In my personal life, I am an avid reader of memoirs and autobiographies: people talking about their lives.  I am a shameless fangirl of stand-up comedy, because laughing at ourselves together is my favorite thing to do.